Category: life as i know it

  • edelweiss

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    I will never understand how the universe works. Never.

    Yesterday afternoon, I decided to wear a skirt and went out. After parking my motorcycle, I took out my wallet to put the parking ticket in. At that moment, I saw a dry edelweiss. He gave me this flower a long, long time ago. He called it ‘the flower of eternity’ and he gave it to me, wishing that our love would last until eternity. Well, seeing our situation now, I thought I should do something about it. Because keeping it on my wallet would always remind me of him. At first, I was thinking of giving it back to him, but I knew he wouldn’t want to take it. And then, I thought perhaps I could just throw it away, but I couldn’t do that to a special flower like this edelweiss. I didn’t know what to do, so I decided to think about it later.

    On my way back home in the evening, I somehow lost my bag with a lot of things inside it; my wallet is one of them. My theory is that I accidently kicked it off my bike and couldn’t see it happening because my view was blocked by my skirt. Yes, I lost my wallet, including the edelweiss.

    Maybe this is God’s way to help me moving on with my life. I put all of our photographs inside the wallet, and now that it’s gone, all the photographs are gone too. Our pictures together, smiling at the camera, are all gone.

    And this morning I found out that he already changed his relationship status on Facebook. So it’s official, then. I didn’t want to believe that it was really over, but it is over.

    But I’ll be alright. We’ll be fine. Eventually.

    Sincerely,
    Putdar.

  • ode to the heart

    Situ Cangkuang, Garut. 19 May 2012.

    Here’s to the girls who are strong enough to let go. Here’s to those who are brave enough to leave a relationship that’s not working (anymore). It’s okay to cry, and it’s okay not to cry. You will be okay, maybe not today, but eventually. He might be a prince charming, but prince charmings are for helpless princesses. You are strong and you are brave; you deserve a knight in shining armour who will fight for you. Surely, memories of him are killing you slowly. You want to forget but that’s not how it works. You can’t forget memories; you can only prevent them from popping out every now and then. Create new memories, go on road trips, join new clubs. Most of all, go on with your life. Stop perusing your timeline to see if he recently tweets something. Stop visiting his profile page to see how he’s doing. It doesn’t matter anymore. Focus on yourself. You’ve spent two years and a half to take care of him; now it’s time for you to take care of yourself. Don’t worry (too much). Remember this: you are loved. Someone else out there is thinking about you and trying to find you as soon as possible. Take your time. Don’t force yourself. Time will eventually heal the wound.

    Sincerely,
    Putdar.

  • about the flat brown shoes

    I’ve had this pair of shoes for months. I know they’re not that pretty (in fact, Ian once called them ‘old lady’s shoes’), but I love them. I love them very much that I used them almost every day. Even when they started to show some signs that they would be broken at any time, I still kept using them. I forced them until they finally gave up. Today, they’re really torn apart.

    Someone asked me why I didn’t try to fix them. Well, it’s too late, isn’t it? I mean, look at them. There’s nothing I can do. Even if tried, they wouldn’t last any longer. Maybe it’s best to just put them off.

    Those flat brown shoes will always be in my heart, even though I already bought a new pair. Because I love them. Since the beginning to the very end.

    Sincerely,
    Putdar.

  • life lately

    So, what did I do in those five days I was away from this blog? Aside of watching Downton Abbey, not much. Just the regular things a college student do: going to classes, doing homework, downloading e-books, etc. But there was a special event on Thursday where I gave a tutorial on how to sign up and create a blog in Blogger to some people.

    After a (quite) long hiatus, BlowUP!’s sharing class striked again. Three new people attended the class where I shared my (limited) knowledge about blogging with Blogger. I began with explaining the step-by-step to sign up and create a blog, and then I gave a brief explanation on how to use Blogger’s Template Design. I’m not an expert (in fact, I was helped by my ‘seniors’ in BlowUP! ;p) but sharing my little knowledge was fun!

    And then today, I went to a seminar on how to wear hijab. The event was called “Lovely Hijab”. I learnt three new ways to wear hijab. Here’s the before-and-after pics:

    The after picture doesn’t show any of the hijab styles I learnt today, actually. I didn’t bring mirror so I had to share a mirror with Vicky, so it was kinda hard to follow the instructions for the new hijab styles. But I’m surely gonna try them soon.

    That is all, folks! What about you? How’s life been?

    Sincerely,
    Putdar.

  • good bye, 2011! hello, 2012!

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    I still remember spending new year’s eve of 2011 at Ipa’s house like it was just last night. But then… KABOOM! It’s December 31st again! Where did the time go?

    2011 has been fun. Well of course I have my ups and downs, but looking back, it’s not really that bad. This year, I have experienced:
    + losing my wallet (and getting it back intactly)
    + writing so too many blog posts in February, March, and April
    + writing an unsual motivational post
    + being the coordinator of Scrabble Competition in AECS 2011
    + going to Mr Boyfriend’s house for the very first time and visiting Taman Bunga Nusantara
    + joining BlowUP! and then going to Jakarta and Bekasi with them
    + changing le blog’s name from Sincerely, Putdar. to The Nerdy Elephant
    + getting stuck in the worst traffic jam ever
    going back to Lampung with Mr Boyfriend for the Nationwide E-Fest 2011
    + turning 20
    + being very, very busy during November and December, preparing NATION

    2011 has given me a lot adventures. I feel I have grown up a little during these past 365 days. May 2012 be better for all of us 🙂

    And as for my resolutions… Well, I’m not that kind of person who can stick with her resolutions. I will surely forget them as soon as the calender turns into February. But I have succesfully fulfilled my 2011 resolution (yes, it’s only one): wearing a better headscarf. The unpractical one. I realised that to be able to fulfill resolutions, I need to make them as simple as possible. So, for 2012, I wish I could:
    + be able to control my anger (my inability to control it has put me through a lot of troubles, actually)
    + try to eat healthy
    + try to be strict with money
    + be more fashionable and learn how to do make up better
    + try to stop procrastinating
    + start planning my final paper

    Okay. They’re not that simple, but I will try to fulfill all of them. I’ll do it one step at a time 😉

    I hope you have a wonderful new year’s eve. How are you going to celebrate it? I myself will stay at home, watching good movies in TV while eating ice cream and drinking Fanta with my family. We’re not going anywhere because Bandung will be very, very hectic with all those people from Jakarta celebrating new year’s eve here. (I don’t understand them. They have their own fantastic city yet they still want to invade my city.)

    Happy new year!

    Sincerely,
    Putdar.